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The truest test of the freegender soul is if you can embrace who you are,
under the dress, or wig, or falsies,
under the makeup, and waxing, and shaving
can you embrace yourself.

Your smile
Your jawline
your high or low cheekbones
The way your eye sockets sink in or bulge out
The way your veins show on your arms
or your knobby knees
Or sinewy arches
The way your hips don't exist
Or your shoulders expand
The definition of your muscles...

Sinewy and springy
Bony and boxy

Can you find a way to not merely hide these aspects of yourself
Disguise and cover
But turn it around and work with
instead of against
your body.

This is the truest test
That you are faced with every day.

You, oh freegender brothers and sisters
Find the love of your body
Make peace with it
And you'll find the beauty and power you seek.
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saintvulcan Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2013  Student General Artist
If I was skinny I'd be totally happy with my appearance. No matter what clothes I'm wearing. 

I don't have a problem being a man though, when I look at myself in the mirror and I'm wearing my clothes I look like a block, but when I get dressed up I look much less like a block
joellekarma Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
thanks for the very meaningful words.
Kitsune-Illusion Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
So very true. That's the trick of it isn't it?
Dee-Artist Featured By Owner Jun 3, 2013  Student General Artist
Your words are very uplifting :)
juneria01 Featured By Owner Jun 3, 2013
ManjiLuo Featured By Owner Jun 3, 2013
Why do you always have suh insightful and inspirational words? X3 i'm so glad i found your page those years ago, hun <3
Lyodor-Tolstoyevski Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2013
I think, deep down, this is true of anybody. It's more visceral for someone who may feel incongruity between their mental and physical gender, and it's definitely a bigger challenge for them, but there's a core of universal human truth here: nobody thinks their body is perfect, and everyone, to some extent, struggles between what they look like and what they want to look like. But the happiest people don't try to change their appearance, they embrace it. This post is great, not because it reveals a struggle that one category of person has, but because it reveals a basic element of every person's being through the window of one specific person's struggles.
animal-delos Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2013   Writer
Simply beautiful... I am exercising a lot more lately, because I wish to get myself into better shape, it's my fault I let myself go, but once back to my best shape possible. I will do my best to live with it and embrace myself. Or try to, I have a sort of ideal image for how I want to be, and can only continue to work towards it.

Gah maybe I suck at this... ^^; but I admire and envy your courage and strength dear sister. (I hope I don't need to explain that, just like... a general dear sister, like "you go, sister!" or such...) Gah there I did it again.
LittleMissAries Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I agreed with you until you mentioned hips. lol It'll be hard for me to get over my hips. XD
HeartGear Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013  Professional Digital Artist
^_^; There are ways. Although, I usually resort to a circle skirt, or an a-line, to balance out the figure. In that way I'm still hiding my hips, but I embrace them because:

If I had giant curvaceous hips, I WOULDN'T be able to wear full skirts without looking unbalanced.

It's all a matter of perspective.
LittleMissAries Featured By Owner Jun 4, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
During the winter I like to use a hip and butt booster. But I can't do that during the summ because the pads would show.
BnGJessie Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2013
Well said. ^_^
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