I've just started to notice how often, how ingrained, self-blame is when a person is a victim of societal circumstance. I was reading over some statistical data when I came to the summary of the article, a paragraph, that really struck me:
"It is part of social and legal convention in the United States to discriminate against, ridicule, and abuse
transgender and gender non-conforming people within foundational institutions such as the family, schools,
the workplace and health care settings, every day. Instead of recognizing that the moral failure lies in society's
unwillingness to embrace different gender identities and expressions, society blames transgender and gender
non-conforming people for bringing the discrimination and violence on themselves." - The National Transgender Discrimination Survey
It made me stop and think: do I harbor feelings of self blame? Two strips of Material Girl came to mind: when Noah has the stormy premonition and says "I was so sure... people like this brought misfortune on themselves" and Rex in Reversal "These are real consequences, ones that YOU instigated."
I thought about that letter my sister sent me, how it stung when she suggested I was intentionally looking for trouble.
Have I encapsulated that belief? Do I secretly blame my circumstances on myself?
Which made me think of THIS quote:
"Am I going to believe all them bad things, them fools say about me today?" - Constantine, "The Help"
Every day we have to decide whether we're goint to believe all them bad things them fools say about us.
And I for one am done with believing it. At least, that's what I've decided today, and I hope tomorrow, and every day until I die.
I wish for everyone else in similar circumstances to have the courage to do the same.
Those Comics I Quoted:
The Survey I Read