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February 26, 2013


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I've just started to notice how often, how ingrained, self-blame is when a person is a victim of societal circumstance.   I was reading over some statistical data when I came to the summary of the article, a paragraph, that really struck me:

"It is part of social and legal convention in the United States to discriminate against, ridicule, and abuse
transgender and gender non-conforming people within foundational institutions such as the family, schools,
the workplace and health care settings, every day. Instead of recognizing that the moral failure lies in society's
unwillingness to embrace different gender identities and expressions, society blames transgender and gender
non-conforming people for bringing the discrimination and violence on themselves." - The National Transgender Discrimination Survey

It made me stop and think: do I harbor feelings of self blame?   Two strips of Material Girl came to mind:  when Noah has the stormy premonition and says "I was so sure... people like this brought misfortune on themselves" and Rex in Reversal "These are real consequences, ones that YOU instigated."

I thought about that letter my sister sent me, how it stung when she suggested I was intentionally looking for trouble.

Have I encapsulated that belief?   Do I secretly blame my circumstances on myself?

Which made me think of THIS quote:
"Am I going to believe all them bad things, them fools say about me today?" - Constantine, "The Help"

Every day we have to decide whether we're goint to believe all them bad things them fools say about us.
And I for one am done with believing it.   At least, that's what I've decided today, and I hope tomorrow, and every day until I die.
I wish for everyone else in similar circumstances to have the courage to do the same.


Those Comics I Quoted:

The Survey I Read…
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alfonsomarin Featured By Owner Feb 27, 2013
It reminded me a quote of princess tutu.

"May those who accept their fate find happiness; those who defy it, glory."
ManjiLuo Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2013
that is an amazing quote...and coming from an anime that i actually watched, I think you earned some respect for that :)
halkeye20 Featured By Owner Feb 27, 2013
damn dude. just damn. i feel for you
FuryouMiko Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2013
It's not just in the US, and it's not just gender.

Anyone who doesn't conform to the group gets bullied and ostracised and blamed for it because the whole point is to MAKE them conform to the group.

"You are different, therefore you will be mistreated until you STOP being different. Because it's for your own good, it's your fault - if you were only normal, we wouldn't have to do this to you."
BnGJessie Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2013
Simply being is never anyone's fault. We are who we are. All that matters is things we do.
If one goes out of their way to be antagonistic, insulting, hurtful, violent, or discriminating then the consequences that result from that behavior are indeed one's own fault. But if someone feels hurt or insulted just because one is different from others whether it be skin color, gender or gender identity, race, religion (or lack thereof), sexual orientation, age, ancestry, or home/place lived then that is more the fault of the person who can't seem to look past these details and treat someone poorly based on any of these differences.

This mistreatment and discrimination of people who are transgender is no different than the mistreatment and discrimination of homosexual people, African-Americans, women, and any other group of people who suffered such indignities throughout our species' history. It's based on ignorance, fear, and bigotry; a purely irrational state of mind. No one in this position should ever feel like a villain or a victim, especially if you and your friends and/or family know there is nothing wrong with you.

There's always going to be this kind of irrational behavior, but the more we stand up and don't let it keep us down, the more it's going to be less and less of a problem as more and more people wise up. We just need to keep exposing the reality as you have done here and those conducting the survey have done. :)
Hipper-Reed Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2013
Good for you :thumbsup:
Relee Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2013
I think it's easier to believe that you created your own circumstances, than to believe that you're ruled by forces beyond your power.
6-Qubed Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2013
...I confess I was expecting a V for Vendetta reference at some point.


(yeah, I suck)
Are you familiar with Julia Serano's book "Whipping Girl"? I highly recommend it, it addresses the lingering issues of transmisogyny in all its forms and proponents.
Gaidin1978 Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2013
I am reminded of a simple quote from a book series I love.

"Despite is not the whole of Life. There is also Love in the World"
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